In the ‘How to’ section of this book, we’ll be looking at how to best reduce frustration and aggression. When we are frustrated, we’re likely to lash out in one of two ways. The first is to blame the other person. We may say or do something to try to get the other person to back off. We may also act out to get our own needs met.
The other way to reduce frustration and aggression is to focus on getting your needs met. When you feel frustrated, you may lash out in one of three ways. You may blame the other person. You may act out in an attempt to get your own needs met. Or you may turn to blaming the environment. If you feel frustrated, you may lash out in one of three ways. You may blame the other person. You may act out in an attempt to get your own needs met.
This is the point where I want to stop. I’m sure that there are lots of situations where you lash out in one of these ways. As I said, it’s not all about the others, it’s about yourself. I hope that when you’re feeling frustrated, you’ve got a plan and you’re thinking of getting your own needs met.
There is no perfect environment for this. Every human being is a mixture of both. When we feel frustration, we may act out in a variety of ways to get our own needs met. Even if we don’t act out in the best possible way, our actions have a ripple effect. For example, if a person acts out in an offensive way and is then offended by the actions of others, this can have an impact on others in the same situation.
This makes sense. It seems that our brains have a natural tendency to go into overdrive when we feel frustrated. This can be either a defense mechanism, but more often it is an extreme response to the frustration of a situation. In this case, it is probably not a defense that helps the situation, but it is a response. If you are frustrated by a situation, you may not feel like giving advice because you do not want to get in the middle of things.
We’ll look at some more interesting ways to display frustration in later chapters. First, though, we’ll look at the relationship between frustration and aggression. If you’re feeling frustrated, then you probably have a strong need to get your point across. If you’re frustrated in a situation, then you probably feel the need to express your frustration. Both of these behaviors are natural ways to express frustration.
In the early days of the internet, the need to express your frustration was expressed by the phrase “the worst possible time” because of all the time that was wasted on dealing with stress and frustrations. These days though, the phrase “the worst possible time” is more of a reminder to avoid acting on frustration. This is also why frustration is often the worst emotion for a person to feel.
If you see frustration, you know it’s not a bad thing. You’re not going to be talking about it. It’s something that can be fixed. You just have to make it go away.
In modern life, frustration is the opposite of aggression. It is often used to mean something like to have a hard time with something. A simple way to think about that is, “its not that bad”. Its not like I’m getting married, its more like, “Its just a date”. Its like being a teenager, its like, “I’m never going to get married, its just a date”.
In the abstract, its not that bad. But in a real life situation, it means you cant do something because you feel frustrated. For example, you think you have the right to throw a football at someone else because you are frustrated. Its not that bad. Its just that you cant do it because you just cant. Its a very common situation, its just a way to talk about it, but its not really a very good way to think about it.