the unconscious. This is where you find yourself in the midst of your day and how you feel about it.
Our feelings are much like a dream you’ve had, where we’re still in control. We’re mostly unaware of what’s happening around us, but our subconscious is aware of what we’re feeling, and we can make decisions based on those feelings.
In the case of the ‘What are you doing?’ question, our subconscious knows better than we do because we’re so busy feeling like we’re doing something wrong. We’re so involved in the process we’re not even aware, but our subconscious brain is aware.
You might think it’s a trick question, but the answer is no.
In fact, our subconscious actually knows what we feel even before we do, it just can’t say for sure. For example, if we’re in a room and someone walks past us and says, “Hey, what are you doing?” our subconscious brain might think, “I know you’re in trouble, I just want you to know I feel sorry for you.
We have all felt this way at some point in our lives. We are aware of it but not consciously aware. But the feelings are there. One of the most famous examples of this phenomenon is that of the person who gets a kidney stone and is afraid to go to the hospital. If she gets to the hospital and they say, “Hey its really bad, go home.” she feels like she’s about to die. And then the next day she feels nothing.
This is the opposite of the feeling of “well, I just want you to know I’m sorry.” You’re saying, “I feel bad for you, I should know you’re in trouble.” This is the same feeling.
This is what “unconscious” signals are. They are the feelings that tell us that we’re not doing something consciously, that we’re just being “unconsciously,” as it were. If you watch a lot of children, you’ll notice that they act out as though they’re in pain. We all do this, even though we’re not aware of it. We all feel pain, some more than others.
Sometimes unconscious signals are hard to be accurate. In fact, the most difficult of all of our emotions are to be accurate. It’s the most difficult to be sure of a given emotion, for example, in the case of the unconscious signals, but the hard part is to be sure of the emotion that we’re reacting to.